Emotional Intelligence is the art and science of understanding and managing our emotions.
Why is that important in human sexuality? Because emotions are energy in movement. According to Traditional Chinese Medicine blocked emotions cause energy stagnation, and healthy flow of energy is needed for healthy sexuality.
Human sexuality is the capacity to have erotic experiences and responses. A person's sexual orientation may influence their sexual interest and attraction for another person. Sexuality can have biological, physical, emotional, or spiritual aspects. The biological and physical aspects of sexuality largely concern the reproductive functions of the sexes, and the basic biological drive that exists in all species.
Physical, as well as emotional, aspects of sexuality also include the bond that exist between individuals, and is expressed through profound feelings or physical manifestations of emotions of love, trust, and caring. Spiritual aspects of sexuality concern an individual's spiritual connection with others. Sexuality additionally impacts and is impacted by cultural, political, legal and philosophical aspects of life. It can refer to issues of morality, ethics and theology, or religion.
Sexual activity is a vital principle of human living that connects the desire, energy and pleasure of the body to a knowledge of human intimacy.
We are responsible of our energy flow, that means that we are responsible of our emotions. When we learn how to manage our emotions, and prevent blockages we are investing in a healthier sexual life, and better and happier human relationships.
In my experience working with married individuals, one of the main concerns is their sexual satisfaction. They don't "feel" that connection, they don't enjoy the sexual experience as before. When we brainstorm about the possible causes, we found that the levels of stress, anxiety, frustration, anger, fear are so high that affects their sexual performance. They don't feel the "energy".
Once I have a client, that she wasn't able to get pregnant. She realized that that emotional memories were affecting their emotional health, and when she was able to manage those memories and heal - she got pregnant.
The human body is the most complex and sacred machine. It was designed to work in harmony and balance. When your body is chronically out of balance, or when is not in harmony, your body does not work as well. Remember, energy is not just the force that causes your heart to beat, your lungs to breathe, and your cells to metabolize nutrients. It is also the intelligence that orchestrates millions of such biological actions every second.
Our recommendation, to enjoy a healthier sexual life, learn to listen, understand and manage your emotions.
During our Emotional Intelligence Holistic Model for Wellness and Wellbeing we discuss the important of managing emotions for the eight dimensions of health, including sexuality. You are invited to join our next class on September.